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Lol. I agree with another post previously here.. Its just a dick..

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PHoenixx, you're overthinking the whole thing. If you walked up to most of our male friends who swing and said something like, "I just want to touch for a bit," none of our friends would have a problem with that, and would respect your boundaries and comfort level. You'll be fine. Have fun. Relax. Go with no other expectation other than to enjoy yourself with your husband. Gina

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Rdy - just you wait...you'll see! LOL :-)

Jacksonville FL
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Phoenixxx - You pleasure is what your husband is (or shoudl be) after. He wants you to experience the feelings and he gets to watch and participate in what could be considered personal porn.

Don't do what you don't feel comfortable doing, but by all means, feel free to explore, especially if that's what the goal is. Once you do, you will begin to understand and enjoy.

Nothing wrong with enjoying yourself. You love your husband, the SM is just a toy (as was said before, very well I might add).

I enjoy being that toy, it gives me great pleasure to be the one helping others enjoy themselves.

Jacksonville FL
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It's just a dick. They're all the same.

Whitehouse Station NJ
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don't worry the woman is in charge if you don't like something just say so, sure the other one involed will be more willing to make your fanasty come true

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The Certs are written by people who may or may not have a different level/take on what a good time is. Yes this is a swinging site however some people never get past friends and can still manage to have a great time. If you go to a club or house party it's possible to have fun without sex. I don't think we can read that much into Certs unless you know the couple that submitted the cert.

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Pheonix....."It is more of a nervousness due to never having done it before with anyone."

That makes sense. So what if the event is not "perfect"? You your husbands expectations of what "doing it right" might be are sure to vary. He may want to see you do A, B, & C. You may end up doing X, Y, Z. As a husband I can tell you that as long as you TRY, he's got no reason to be dissatisfied.

As for what the other guy thinks of you.......He's getting willing tail, guys are really easy to please. And if the other guy turns out to be a jerk, who cares what he thinks?

Relax. My wife & I have only done a couple of these ourselves, she was VERY nervous. The first time did not go great, no higher than a C. But we talked things over, and the next time was definately a B to B+. We both had a lot of fun. So don't sweat it.

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Honestly, it sounds like you are doing exactly what you need to. You are hanging around other swingers and attending clubs and parties and exposing yourselves to a variety of situations while maintaining your own pace. Good for you! Only you will know when you are ready to move into another comfort zone.

My advice? Continue to do what you are doing and if the next step is more touching and playing around with others and then possible oral with others then great. If not, that's ok too. There is no merit badge to be earned for "progressing" from soft to full swap. If you both enjoy where you are now, carry on.

But please don't let unfounded insecurites get in the way either. There is no "right" way to have sex with others. Well, other than that whole teeth thing.

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Scandle, We have no doubt that we could have some hot and explosively sexy soft fun with you as well! Our beef is how the certs read. Your certs are appropriate for your level of play, Their certs seem to indicate, at least to us, that they play above their stated level of play. Maybe we're just reading too much into them...

Virginia Beach VA
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