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TOPIC: Anybody from TN real
Created by: TNCouple3
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Just starting to wonder if there are any real couples on here!! We seem to be running into fakes only and it is really getting frustrating! Anyone else out there having the same problem? We'd love to start the lifestyle, but we have just had no luck with the people we have invested time in getting to know. It seems like after countless chatting, when the time comes to meet, these people disappear! Sorry, just had to get it all out!

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We will be relocating to Tenn (N of Nashville) in the next few months. We have had the same experience as many of you. If you want one night stands there are plenty of sport F*****s who will oblige you. We weren't/aren't. Friendships and relationships that will compliment and enhance your marriage are worth cultivating and that takes time. Looking forward to developing those relationsips with our new friends in Tenn! Happy Hunting! Hugs!

Bethpage TN
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Thanks Kozy!

Keep your chin up MemphisCpl; there are couples out there for you. Don't lose sleep over the pushy ones. Some people forget what it's like to be new to this whole thing, and get to where they don't want to beat around the bush. Not all of us are that way, so find some close to you and enjoy yourselves. Stick to your pace and comfort level and you'll have a lot more fun with it. And be up front and direct with anyone. Don't be rude, or offensive, but tell them what you are thinking, and what you want to happen next. People make assumptions, and then find out later not everyone is on the same page. It's ok to be direct and to the point, it's your body after all.

Hendersonville TN
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Memcpl and One Life,, A hearty "well put" to both posts, especially the part about it being worth the wait for friendship and taking notes. Hope this finds all well and having fun,,Kozies

Bristol TN
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We have had success with the sight, and keep in mind that not everyone is going to be compatible. Hey what can we say, some you win, some you lose, but this is about having fun right? Some people also have unrealistic expectations, or are unwilling to bend a little to make things happen. Such as agreeing to travel a short distance, or meet at a specific place. One couple we know is so worried about discretion that they made it near impossible for other couples to find them. Then they would complain that the site is useless, and that they are becoming disenchanted with the whole idea of the lifestyle. That’s a shame, because we are sure there are other couples who feel the same as they did. After some coaching, and a naughty little session with the digital camera, they changed their profile and things picked up for them.

The one thing we do is keep notes on users. If we send an e-mail and get no response or a generic response we note it on their profile for future reference. If we talk with a couple and then everything suddenly goes quite for a month or longer, we note that too.

One of the biggest things we have learned is that we must be careful about how we fill out our profile. We found out that some people were taking something we had put on ours the wrong way, and thus passing us over. Once we re-worded it, things began to roll. Also, pics are attention getters, but they don't by any means close the deal. Some people rely on their pictures to get people interested in meeting them. Your profile is the first impression people have of you. I suggest you start there before giving up on the site.

And finally there are generally 2 schools of thought as mentioned in the lifestyles magazine. Some couples and singles are looking for the excitement of a sexship, while others are looking for the long term benefits of a friendship. Sexships are when you meet at a club or hotel, and get naked before you get their names. Friendships take a little longer to get to the naked part, but are generally worth the wait. Don't expect a sexship from couples looking for friendships and wanting to easy into it.

Just our 2 cents, hope it helps.

Hendersonville TN
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Understand the frustrations, we have had house parties and you have some folks who accept, then don't show up or e-mail,,Actually it's all fine as it has come to be expected rather than be a shock,lol. You kinda gotta look at it this way, friends are like parachutes, if they aren't there the first time,,chances are,you wont be needing them again. Keep the chins up everyone,and good luck and have fun

Bristol TN
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We try to reply to most emails we get, even if it's just a generic response, but sometimes people get missed because both of us are on & off throught the day or we assumed the other half took care of it, but we try not to intentally hurt anyone's feelings. This lifestyle is all about physcial attraction and you either have it or you don't with couples. What my entire point of this post was that we have been establishing "connections" with people and we all agree there is a mutual attraction, but when it's time to actually meet, they disappear and that's what we are tired of!

Knoxville TN
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The following is one of my posts from earlier this year addressing the percentage of people out there who are "for real":

Hi. I have been playing for about two years, have developed a wide array of great swing friends, and have an incredible sex life. I have learned that 60% or more of the people who post profiles on these swinger sites (whether they are couples, single men, or single females), have no intention of playing with anyone. They just want to chat and send emails. So, what you need to do is assume that at least 60% of the people that you meet here are not for real, be polite to them, and keep looking for the other 40% who will develop into swing friends.

Memphis TN
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Its really frustrating, here is a great opp. to meet people from our area and so far 90% are fakes!!!!!If there are any real people no ganes that want to meet call 7315879175 during morning hours 8-10.Trying to maybe get a house party together!!!susan

Martin TN
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The sad part is, even the "Single Males" turn out to be fakes, oh well, guess they all don't know what they are missing, wink, wink! I'm pretty sure that after our 3 month membership expires, we won't be renewing it just because this has been more of a dead end then anything.

Knoxville TN
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The good part about EBay is your positive or negitive comments listed about the seller & buyer. I am sure it would run off most of the "wanta bees" and "picture collectors" but not sure the site could survive without them, but should would be nice for the real deals out here.

Bolivar TN
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