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TOPIC: First time couple needing info
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What to expect from it? How you feel about the first time you do it? Has it ever caused problems between the married couple or does make the marriage stronger? Where does the couples meet to do something like this?

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you ask some very good questions. first of all dont have any expectations. second it is nerve racking the first time because of mixed feelings about wanting to play and how your spouse feels abouts happening. third our marriage has become MUCH stronger since we started to swing and where to meet is up to you and your comfort level.......meeting at your home is not a good idea though. a place like a restaurant with motel reservations nearby is best for a first meeting. feeling nervous and excited is normal. hope you have fun and take a bit of advice from our post.

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Hello What to expect from it? We were hoping to enhance our sex lives and to live out some fantasies..When we meet some one and everything goes perfect we like each other..we find them attractive to us and us to them ( physically intelectually ect..) all the comfort levels are good you know !! ya Click with them at that point ... we hope to hook up.. But we never never expect it We never push anything on any one..The first time and stil now when we meet new people we get nervous or even if we know them but have never swung with them and finally do.we still get a little nervous .. The only time there has been any problems is when we don't communicate with each other on what we are doing ..sort of like checking in and expressing your thoughts and feelings on what we are doing... If you can't do that or your not being honest with each other about how you are feeling and what you are thinking there will be problems we have seen in it in others and we have sorted thru that stuff our selves we are learning as we go and we can only find our own way with each others help buy TALKING about it.. It didn't make the marriage stronger it enhnced it a great deal and we are closer in some ways because we talk to each other about this alot..If you have a weak marriage this may not be for you ...We meet alot og couples at Meet n Greets and in the chat room on here and through the usual way to contact on SLS email ect.. Hope it helps Jeff n Dot

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Can only speak for our experiences. Our first time we met a couple through a swinger site online and then made plans to meet them for a drink and take it from there. We ended up coming back to our place and fooling around there.

We sort of rushed into it because we were eager to try it. Everyone goes at thier own pace. Some folks like to just soft swap for a while and work their way to full swap. Others jump right into swapping. Its all depends on how far you want to go.

As for our relationship, it never has caused a problem. We're pretty secure in our relationship. We see this as a hobby and/or a night out sort of thing, similar to going to a movie, etc. I guess you can say it has improved our relationship in the sense that we're more open about our fantasies and desires and we're actively looking to live them out.

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we are also looking for someone to get started with thanks

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What to expect from it? How you feel about the first time you do it? Has it ever caused problems between the married couple or does make the marriage stronger? Where does the couples meet to do something like this?

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