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OPEN RELATIONSHIPS & ETHICAL NON MONOGAMY vs Swinger, sex shopper or sex addict

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Open relationships fall under the larger category of consensually non-monogamous relationships. They are relationships in which one or both partners can pursue sex, and the social company of other sexual partners often with no emotional attachment or mutually agreed limited emotional attachment. When it comes to open relationships, people in them tend to explore sex with others outside of their relationship but reserve emotional and romantic connections for their primary partner.

For those couples that practice open relationships or ethical non monogamy the additional person to the main PRIMARY secure relationship coupling is referred to as a Friend with benefits, or simply a friend, often consisting of both sexual and non-sexual meetings with varying levels of emotional attachment. While emotional attachment is often limited by choice its often a more FRIEND based relationship than just sex or a fuck buddy. In other words, a GOOD friend that may also have a sexual relationship but not predicated on just the “activity of sex”. There is at least some modicum of personal connection and respect.

Open relationships and ENM is OFTEN confused and mixed with terms like “FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS” and “FUCK BUDDY”. However, they are vastly different.

A fuck buddy consists of showing up, performing a fuck or sexual activity and leaving whereas a TRUE FWB is a much more social type relationship that may include both sexual and non-sexual interaction with the agreed limitation of no emotional attachment or at least limited emotional attachment keeping the main “fidelity” on the PRIMARY coupling. There are many nuances but often swingers prefer more "sex related" , or solving for sex activity" meet up , where ENM is much more social based.

Open relationships differ from swinging, in which partners have sex with other people at parties and where the relationships are often purely sexual. They also differ from polyamory, where partners can pursue more than one committed EMOTIONAL relationship at a time. Open relationships are considered a sort of the middle ground between swinging and polyamory.

While swingers tend to keep their outside relationships to the realm of sex with other established couples, and polyamory is all about having multiple committed, emotionally invested, romantic partners, people in open relationships can usually have sex with others they feel attracted to—with the caveat that these other relationships remain relatively casual.

Another way of thinking about it, you can have sex with whomever you want, but you are not pursuing elevated intimate, committed relationships with other partners.

Married couples, committed couples, and casual couples alike can be involved in open relationships or Ethical non-Monogamy that consent to casually date people outside of their marriage or relationship or have a sexual relationship outside of their marriage that offers more social interaction and variety.

WHAT OPEN RELATIONSGHIPS AND ETHICAL MONOGAMY ARE and ARE NOT

Open relationships and ENM couples are committed couples, with strong, secure unions, arguably stronger and more secure than mainstream monogamous couples, devoid of jealousy, drama, and discontent about dating others.

They are your average everyday friends, co-workers and people with families, friends, aspirations, careers, goals, interests and feelings.

Most couples that are OPEN or ENM just simply don’t believe that the antiquated institution of monogamy or marriage is real, actively practiced successfully and mired in religious and social dogma of lies. Many seek to make their own rules and beliefs that allow them to enjoy the variety that life offers and yes that includes sexual relationships with others.

However, they differ greatly from the definition of SWINGER or sex shopper where the main goal is usually, just sex. Also, distinctly different from a SEX ADDICT that needs the adrenaline and rush from sex just as an addict would from any other drug dependency issue.

The issue is MOST people on sex-based dating websites LUMP all of the above categories into a crude misunderstood thought of they all must be “sex shoppers”, it must be that since a profile exists every one of them wants RANDOM sex.

This could not be further from the truth.

Open relationships and ENM couples typically are more interested in the PERSON than the sex. If a quality personal connection with trust, comfort and attraction is cultivated and exists, then sex becomes a possibility whereas most swingers, sex shoppers and addicts are seeking more, meet for sex-based activity.

Understanding these nuances is a huge value to understanding the difference between each type and not only meeting the right people but on how you can truly approach people based on what they wrote in their profile.

INTERNET "dating " has changed the "integrity of human interaction when it comes to this stuff. Interaction is often disposable and most are here to fulfill their own agenda.

Creating a longer lasting "relationship" of any kind is often much more difficult because most people couples, women and men included are PUSHING their own agenda rather than focusing on truly UNDERSTANDING the different categories and finding the best match for their intentions, compounded confusion when people don’t know themselves enough to communicate HONESTLY what they want or need out of the lifestyle or interaction with others.

Lastly even worse when people lie about their understanding or values just to meet you when it was not a good match in the first place.

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