Most people have the wrong idea of what a swing club is. Many think that its just one big orgy; that you check your clothes at the door and then dive right in, doing anything you want with whomever you like. This is completely not the case! More than anything else, its a social club where youll meet and form friendships with some of the nicest people youve ever met. In some cases, youll form bonds that will last a lifetime.
Heres how it works...
When you walk into a swing club for the very first time, you and / or your partner are probably very nervous. You dont know anyone there and you might feel like everyone is watching you. Thats a good sign! That means youre normal. Thats exactly how everyone feels their first time.
You might expect a lot when you first come to a club and thats probably the biggest cause of anxiety for first time visitors. I realize that for many men its hard to not think about fulfilling all your fantasies about orgies and threesomes. That could be a huge mistake. As a first time visitor, wives are usually more nervous about the evening, and one sure way to add fuel to that nervous fire is for her to see her husband bouncing off the walls with excitement about jumping into an orgy or looking overly anxious about being with someone new.
The best way to approach the evening is with only one single expectation, and that is to have a fun time together. For your first visit to a swing club, plan on just having a nice dinner and enjoying the sexually charged dance floor. This way youll both be completely comfortable, shes not worried about him wanting to dive into the first orgy he sees, and hes not worried about deciding who is worthy of touching his precious wife.
Then one (or a few) of the following things will definitely happen...
1 - At the end of the night after dinner and dancing, you will both go home with each other and after dancing all evening in such a sexually charged environment you will both have the best mind-blowing orgasms during your love-making that youve had in years, probably recharging your sex life and supercharging your relationship and your marriage.
2 - While on the crowded dance floor, during one of the slow songs, youre dancing together and an attractive couple is dancing beside you and her clothes are coming off. You find her body rubbing against yours on the dance floor. You both respond by touching and caressing them back. Then after the song, you disappear into the crowd enjoying the excitement of the nameless pleasure of this slight, yet sexy, anonymous encounter.
3 - You are both so turned on by the evening that you go into one of the many cozy, private rooms, lock the door behind you and dim the chandelier. Then, seeing each other in the mirrors that surround you, enjoy great sex together. Knowing that right on the other side of the wall, another couple (or threesome, foursome or moresome) is doing the same. In fact you can even hear their sexy sounds through the walls, which multiplies your excitement.
4 - You both decide to be a little adventurous. You secure your clothes in a locker and wrap up in two giant beach towels, both provided complimentarily by the playroom attendant. You go to the giant Jacuzzi for a bit where you can enjoy being naked. Since youre shy, on your first visit you feel more comfortable being in the water where your hands can roam, playing with each other (and maybe others too) under water. Although not in obvious plain view of everyone, others might be engaged in all sorts of easily viewable activities in the Jacuzzi, your play brings you close to climax. 5 - You both know that you want to see more, but youre not sure about how much you want to participate in. So wrapped in your little security blanket beach towels you venture into the main upstairs Luvnasium party complex. One gigantic mattress covering several entire rooms, surrounded by mirrored walls with tropical plants, lighting, ceiling fans and naked bodies, lots of them. You dont get on the mattress, but instead you find a comfortable viewing location, close enough to easily view all the exciting activities in the room down below you, yet far enough away to accommodate your comfort zone. You feel like youre part of the activities though not needing to participate in them. Its like youre sitting in an adult theater watching the most erotic orgy youve ever seen, except this time it isnt a movie. The action is real and live!
6 - You see the couple you were slow dancing beside on the dance floor. There is room next to them so you spread your beach towels out on the mattress beside them and lay down. You begin kissing and playing with your mate, when after a little while the pretty girl of the couple beside you gently touches your arm to extend an invitation to touch them back. You respond to her touch not really knowing yet how much touching or caressing will take place, but knowing full well that either couple can say no at any time and set any limits they desire. Maybe the ladies only touch each other while the men each pleasure their own wives. Maybe the men are massaging both the ladies entire bodies or maybe the ladies are stroking the other man while having sex with her husband. Who knows what might happen on this special magical night, its all up to you and those involved with you. Maybe she might enjoy giving you oral while her husband services her from behind, youll be sure to see plenty of that going on. And maybe youll engage in full partner sharing with a complete exchange of partners. Its entirely up to you and those involved, this is your night, you set your own limits.
At the end of the night, maybe youll exchange phone numbers with this other couple or maybe youll just enjoy seeing them at Your club once in a while. Remember, its all up to you.
Rules to live by for a guaranteed great time...
1 - The Golden Rule: NO means NO. Anyone may say NO for any reason, at any time even if you are in the middle of a swinging encounter and have changed your mind and want to stop it right there! If you are in a situation that makes you uncomfortable, just say NO. Do not jeopardize your happiness and satisfaction with this LifeStyle, or that of your partner, by doing something against your will just because you are afraid to say no. The friendliest way is to say, oh no thank you, but thanks for asking. Be honest initially, and you will avoid any misunderstandings. Dont forget that peoples attitudes change and who knows? Maybe sometime in the future you may meet again with a different opinion.
2 - Always treat one another with respect. After all, this is a party! Besides, you dont want to be rude or judgmental, because you wouldnt want it to happen to you. If a single gentleman talks to you and you are interested in swinging with couples only, that doesnt mean you cant be nice to him. Hes a person just like you! Just politely let him know.
3 - If you are rejected (and it happens to everyone, including women), do not take personal offense. Rejection is a very personal thing, and its almost as hard to reject as it is to be rejected. Honesty with each other is crucial. Who knows? You could end up with a great friendship if you handle the situation right.
4 - Deal with jealousy head on! It is a normal reaction. Remember that this is strictly a physical & recreational pleasure, not an emotional one. Discover what triggers jealousy in your relationship and work it out together. It may mean modifying your activities, but your relationship together is not worth jeopardizing over swinging.
5 - Always let your steady partner know she or he is number one. Arrive together, take time to caress them, touch base often; it makes one feel secure. And always leave together.
6 - Use your common sense and good judgment when you are involved in a swinging situation. Be kind, thoughtful and sensitive. Swingers, couples & single guys are people and have feelings too!
7 - Honor any and all prior understandings and rules you have made between each other, and be sure to communicate with each other openly and honestly so there are no misunderstandings about your rules.
8 - Respect the guidelines you set as a couple and communicate them to prospective partners. Open, honest communication is imperative to forming relationships! And please dont forget to respect the guidelines of others. Dont try to talk them into changing their rules because you dont happen to agree with them!
9 - Pay attention to body language. There is more to interaction than words. Consider the body language of the person you are talking with and it will tell you more than the conversation you are having! Be sensitive to the person and you will know what makes them uncomfortable or happy and excited.
10 - Demand absolute discretion and be worthy of the same. Discretion is paramount in this LifesStyle! Privacy is imperative! Never, ever discuss details inappropriately. Everything you do, everything you see, must remain private. We have a saying, Everything you see here, everything you hear here, must remain here when you leave here.