My wife and I have been in the LifeStyle for several years. We've been to many clubs, parties, conventions and resorts. We have played with more than a few couples and singles and have not had a jealous moment in a long time. I was quite surprised at a recent, non-lifestyle event, which struck a jealous bone.
We're very secure in our relationship and only play together; it's more fun that way. We recently hired a male to come to our home and give us both a massage. He came out a few times and everything was fine. He brought his own table, oils and all the stuff you need, but didn't have a sheet for us to cover up with. I usually strip down naked for a massage since I'm under a sheet. Since there was no sheet, I decided to keep my boxers on. My wife kept her thong on, but went topless.
Being secure in my masculinity, not to mention that we are open about our bodies, active in the lifestyle and frequent nude beaches; I didn't have any problem with her being topless, at least not at first.
As two or three weeks went by, one session per week, I began to notice that my entire massage was given with me on my tummy. My wife's massage was given half face down, half face up. Now, I have lower back problems, which the masseur is aware of, so I blew this off as him just spending more time on my back. One time the masseur came to our house, I happened to walk by the massage table while he was massaging her, but he appeared to be massaging her breast. Not groping or anything overly sexual, but more than what I considered normal. I know there are muscles in there, but it caught me as unacceptable for the masseur to massage my wife's exposed breast. On my way back by a few minutes later, he was still working on the breast, quite a long time I thought. I'm not sure if jealousy is the correct term, as I don't really think I was jealous as much as I felt this person was taking advantage of the situation and getting a bit of pleasure for himself.
I discussed this later with my wife; she didn't realize what was going on. After a 10 minute discussion, she agreed that it was not acceptable conduct by the masseur and agreed to wear a top the next time. We've played with single males in the past and enjoyed it very much, but this was not the type of encounter we look for. Maybe as a fantasy, but never in reality. We still use the same masseur and have not had any problems. It's quite possible that he knew we were swingers; we're listed on several websites and have adult material all over the house. Her being topless and having an open personality could easily appear inviting, but it's still not appropriate. Just like it's not OK to grab a naked lady at a club, without permission, it's not OK to touch an exposed breast without asking.
So, the moral of this story is that you should always discuss things with your partner. Keep an open line of communication and head off any problems as early as possible.