1. Build relationship - ...with both members of the couple, especially the husband. Not speaking for all swinger types, but many husbands, especially hotwife and stag/vixen husbands are very happy to share her with you, Mr. Single Gentleman. But the hubby wants to make sure his wife is treated well and is safe. So, you have to build both rapport and assurance you'll treat her according to their rules. For meeting and dating a couple. Now, we say dating even if one is not actually dating the husband, a successful single guy has to develop some rapport with the willing husband to be truly successful.

2. Ask - Ask a fair number of questions about what they like. We recommend questions about how they got in the lifestyle, why they swing, what makes them happy on a playdate, and what do they not want.

3. Logistics - Set up dates, meetings, coffee, or dinner and be crystal clear about times, dress, and so on. Be on time! Sexy Moms are also usually very busy Moms. She does want to explore your big dick but she also has to get kids to school, to bed, and probably work a job as well. Don't stand up a couple or be late. Be over communicative if you miss a data or will be late.

4. Manners - Be a consummate gentleman, until she tells you not to be one. Dress appropriately for the occasion and maybe dress up one notch above. Many, many ladies love a guy in a power suit or dashing blazer when the hoipoloi are wearing sweats and jeans. You are likely part of the lady's or couple's fantasy. So, make it come true for them. Look the part of the put-together stunt lover they both want for the wife.

5. Manners Part Two - Greet both members of the Team. Hold doors, adjust chairs, stand when a lady enters. Talk to both hubby and wife. Ask where they want you to sit.

6. Manners Part Three - Erotic manners. If you play with the couple, you may want to ask some basic sexy questions like "where do you want me to cum?" I know it sounds strange at first. But if you cannot talk about these things civilly, should you be in the lifestyle? Some couples want you to cover the wife like Huck Finn painted the fence, and others don't want your baby batter at all. So, just ask. Ask about touching certain places, and certainly ask about condoms, lubes, oils, or other items which might come in contact with the lady. Ask because she or he or you may have an allergy or sensitivity.

7. Communications - How do you and they want to communicate after the meeting in person. We enjoy sexy banter with singles and couples, and also have no problem with one-on-one chats or calls with the lovely wife. Other couples do not want extra messages or want the hubby to be the conduit for messages or setting up the next sexy time tryst.

8. Flirting - We love flirting. We love PDA with nice guys and the wife. We like guys touching then wife in a restaurant booth. Some couples don't want this at all. So, ask a few questions about what they like and want. Kissing? Caressing? Lovey dovey talk? Just ask them and push the boundaries only after enquiring of the lady or both members of the couple.

Guys, many, many couples do want you in their lives. Single men are sought after in the lifestyle by couples. The men who do the things detailed above...and more....are highly sought after and do very well in the sex and friendship departments in swingerdom. Do be the debonair lover for them, impress her with your wit and charm, and you'll be invited to come over often and help hubby drive Mrs. Robinson crazy with lust.